“Forgive and forget” is a popular simple lecture or preaching which is easy to give and accepted, but hard to follow.
For our own peace of mind, we may accept and attempt to follow the forgive-and-forget doctrine and move on with our lives.
However, the hurt feelings take time to heal in our reconciliation effort.
One can forgive. But forgetting can’t go away just by our wish.
The latter is influenced by the biology of our memory.
Whereas, forgetting involves our brain cells to evacuate an offensive infliction, forgiving needs to absorb in an expanded big heart.
Forgiving can be possible, but forgetting hangs on.
-By Promod Puri